Sunday, May 13, 2007

Be A Rebel!!!

Heights of Desperation- Standing in front of the locked gates of the theatre with 2 crows and 3 dogs and many eechas at 10am in the morning for 11:30 show!!!

More Desperation-The security knows you are standing there but he wont open the gate!As far as you are concerned he is THE most important man on earth till u get the tickets. (10:30 am 4 guys have joined the kakas)

Tolerance Test-30 guys are staring at you cause you and your friend are the only gals giving them company. (11:00am)

Victory-His Highness Security finally feels sympathy for the 2 lovely lonely girls standing there!(11:05)

Advantage Woman-The gate opens and we enter.Only US!!heheh a thousand enviable stares!! I'm loving it!!

The Finale-We get the tickets first! yipppeeeee....(11:15)

It is indeed a pleasure to watch guys having a marathon race towards the ticket counter while you are happily counting the tickets which u get through the ladies queue.
Where else do we get such advantages???Buses,theatres, railway stations,that's it? ya that's it!!!

Well I cant imagine how I would be able to explain such advantages to my 5yr old niece, who keeps saying "I want to be a boy"from the day she started to talking.Give her the best clothes on earth she would prefer her brother s torn jeans any day!Headstrong ha?After all she is MY niece!!!:)

Nor can I imagine myself listing out such advantages to an illiterate human being in UP(Bihar,AP) who is all set to kill his third new born girl(yeah the word is female infanticide).His dadas, pardadas have done this so why cant he ??Why blame him for his genetic disorder, when u have literate parents doing the same, knowing that "women bring life to this world".So what could stop them from committing such heinous crime.Yes you
could tell them that times have changed, woman are no more a financial burden for the family, they have made a mark in every other industry,they are equal to men to in all aspects etc etc etc.............Hello??would they listen???A remarkable change in the attitude towards woman has been taking place in the last 30yrs but rate of crimes towards women doesn't seem to be in any way diminishing??

"Puratchigal edhum seyyaamal Pennukku nanmai vilaiyadhu
Kannagi silaithaan ingundu Seethaikku thaniyaai silayedhu"

for those who haven't figured out which language that is....Its Tamil!

for those who haven't figured out what it means...the meaning goes like this(my translation aint that gud)

You have the statue erected for Kannagi,(who according to epics burnt the city of Madhurai and rebelled against the king who had captured and punished her husband for a crime he hadn't done), but you would never find a statute erected for Sita alone(wife of Rama who meekly obeyed her husband when she had to go through the agnipareeksha)
The conclusion,A woman can get her due rights(or privileges or justice) only if she creates a revolution.So when Kannagi burnt the city of Madhurai, there she created a revolution and hence she is respected till date.Not that Sita is less respected, she is the embodiment of tolerance,but still no statues "exclusively" for her, depicting her tolerance!

You fight, you rebel, and finally you get justice!

Now for those who have figured out the meaning without my "not so apt" translation, should know that these lines are not from "Thirukkural", "Bhagavad gita", "Manu Smriti"...

Believe it or not, its from the most popular Tamil song of 90s, "urvasi urvasi take it easy urvasi"!! well some lyrics this tapori song has!!!
Even a tapori song speaks of such truth!

lets see the other side of the story....

Everyone knows the story of Sita, cause starting from your grand mom, your mom and then the school lessons teach us the tolerance of Sita, but how many of us know the story of Kannagi, one in a million, why??Because she expressed her anger and she rebelled!Rebellious women have been respected but somehow their stories have never been appreciated(that's what i feel),u would prefer your mother,wife and your daughter to be a Sita and never a Kannagi,a Jhansi ki rani or Joan of arc.Well that may be the reason why 90% women who are victims of harassment never complain, just tolerate.

I would just complete this post now and move on with my daily routine.I talk, mourn,sympathise and move on.Same is the case with the so called "social activists" who appear on TV shows and chat on and on about women empowerment and always end up blaming men for everything and keep saying that they are not feminists.Well I believe we(women) are equally responsible for the state we are in.When the show is over, the discussion is done! And nothing concrete happens.OK I would be wrong if i say all social activists are like this,yes there are people who are doing some good work but very few.But whatever it is unless we don't act,nothing is gonna change!

I hate preaching!But that's what you end up doing whenever you take up a social issue.Maybe i should end it right here and do something useful for the victims of such injustice.But I badly want to say this to the women out there, who have been tolerating harassment or at least know people who are doing the same,

Stop that "sarvam saha"crap!And be a rebel!

Hail Kannagi!!

14 comments:

jj said...

awesome.... women power huh!

Anonymous said...

Hmmm... This time I keep away the notion of sleeping for a moment, even if I had any such thoughts while reading it, 'coz, at the first place, it has some strong content and then again, I take my personal security into consideration; I mean I cannot rule out the chance of getting shot at next site by some feminists even in case of a slightest slip of tongue... So i caution myself and would like to put it precisely and with care. Ya... That was really a relevent topic and liked the way you introduced the matter in a light manner ending it with a strong serious note.
PS. Any plan to join feminist movements? Undenkil parayene, will take care to comment with care from next time onwards on ur blogs... ;-@

rajeevnath said...

don't forget handicapped people also gets considerations in bues, treaters and all other places where they go...

and don't forget MOTHER TERESA.. she is an icon to be followed.. she is a woman and stil have enough respect...
so b4 becoming REBEL thing Twice...

hehehe...

g3 said...

@jo thanx
@originale thanx, and no plans to join such org..
@rajeev physically challenged(politically correct) get consideration in buses rite??so in this context wouldnt it be like telling the ladies being a lady is a physical handi cap??(maybe u dint mean it)
i understand mother teresa is a woman to be respected,but can u tell me how could u possibly deal with people, for example the guy involved in nithari killings,in a peacful manner..i would prefer him to be shot at gun point!!!
and be a rebel, is meant for those who are suffering..i hope i made my point clear!

suraj said...

HEYYYYYYYYYY G3.....tht was pretty gud...........luved the way u took ur film incident(lighter note gud).......n thn introduced the real deal............keep it up.......n yea BE A REBEL!!!!(improving by the day in this........)

rajeevnath said...

woman is behind every man's success.. there will be a woman behind that man also..I don't think crime is done only by men... if u take all crime you'll find atlest one woman involved in it...

I think I also made my point clear ;-)......

g3 said...

@suraj thanx bro!
@rajeev i guess we could cntinue this debate forever cause u dnt seem to be getting my point nor im getting yours...see u in chat!

Unknown said...

i totally agree with u gayu...i guess women shuld get out of this notion of being the one to sacrifice n speak out...i loved the way u brought the topic fwd...maybe we culd put this article in our coll notice board....hehehe..the whole of all saints will rebel..

rajeevnath said...

hmmm.. I just want to know what is the reason for women being a rebel against men when women herself is the cause for all the crimes... its pretty simple I guess..

g3 said...

@rajeev did i say anywhere in the blog women should rebel against "men", i just said stop tolerating injustice!!!i never said men are responsible for every crime unlike u who feel women are responsible for every crime...i feel women need to come out of their shells and face the world with courage...and still u are not getting my point!!!

bo said...

yaaaaaawwwwwwwwn..eniku orakanam varunu.zzzzzzzzzz

raghav said...

profound! really interesting the way you carried ur 'ticket acquiring' incident into a very sumptuous discussion .. typical Mallu movie style.

well for starters .. just imagine ther is no separate Q for ladies ( and for 'pretty girls') .. how many ladies do you think would actually stand in that 'tvm-male-dominated' Q to get their tickets ..

Reservations serve two purposes : to protect the weak against an unequal fight !
and eventually get them on an equal pedestal with the rest ..

In your case, (tickets) .. that time would come when Guys learn to accept girls as a part of their own species and that having a girl around does not give their eyes and hands license to roam ..

Till that day comes .. ladies would have a Separate Q at theaters and seats in buses .. Njoy it while it lasts dudette ..

I would continue envying you (for all these benifits) till then ..*grin*

Sriram said...

Really good one Gayathri! Frankly, dint expect such maturity from u. The way u have penned it is also in ur own inimitable style.. But, as u have mentioned, this opinion/discussion of urs shudnt start and end on paper.. I am definitely for the opinion that women shud consider themselves equal to men, and shud be treated that way..

Even small things is biased against women - Why shud women take care of the home, cook food, take care of the children even when she is working? There shud be a balance between the work done by the men and women in a household. But this is never a question in most Indian households - and most women too think that it is their duty to all that - the mindset shud change - not to "I need not do all this, blah!", but something like "Men also share my workload at home"..

Women empowerment is on the rise for sure - in any field.. But the invisible constraints for women (to do what is best - ie, be a "normal" girl) is more pronounced I think.. Which makes most girls have the sheep mentality, led by others and not knowing why they are going that way.. It definitely takes courage and mental strength to break the shackles, come out of the "safe trend" mindset and do whatever one loves..

g3 said...

@bo no comments!
@raghav thanx for d long comment...yeah i really enjoy the special treatment, inspite of such reservations why do u still find hands and eyes roaming inside the buses and theatres...so watever u do it just cant be enuf.....if good times do come..i just hope they retain the separate Q :D till then keep visiting!!!
@sriram thanx a lot!!!" my inimitable style" i really like the sound of that!!!i agree with u totally!!!So u better help ur wife (whn u get married)in the household work!!!keep visiting!!!